Ask the LifeQuake Doctor – July Issue

As I was preparing for this month’s column and my third anniversary with Vision Magazine, my thoughts were strongly immersed in the tragedy of the Gulf oil spill, and my prayers focused on the technology for the clean up supported by our government. I then received a note from Bonnie Brandt of the Conscious Evolution Community in Santa Barbara and felt strongly there was a synchronicity here, so am devoting part of my column this month to this cause.

She shares the words of Dr. Masaru Emoto, who many of you will recognize as the scientist from Japan who has researched and published about the characteristics of water. Among other things, his research reveals that water physically responds to emotions.

Right now, most of us have the predominantly angry emotion when we consider what is happening in the Gulf. And while certainly we are justified in that emotion, we may be of greater assistance to our planet and its life forms, if we sincerely, powerfully and humbly pray the prayer that Dr Emoto himself, has proposed.

“I send the energy of love and gratitude to the water and all the living creatures in the Gulf of Mexico and their surroundings. To the whales, dolphins, pelicans, fish, shellfish, plankton, coral, algae, and all living creatures . . .I am sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you. I love you.”

Bonnie’s words: “I am passing this request to people who I believe might be willing to participate in this prayer, to set an intention of love and healing that is so large, so overwhelming that we can perform a miracle in the Gulf of Mexico.

We are not powerless. We are powerful. Our united energy, speaking this prayer daily…multiple times daily….can literally shift the balance of destruction that is happening.

We don’t have to know how, we just have to recognize that the power of love is greater than any power active in the Universe today.
Feel free to copy this article to send it around the planet. Let’s take charge and do our own clean up!

Dear Dr. Toni:
I have a 14-year old son I don’t know what to do with. He scores in the 95 percentile on standardized tests but underperforms in school and couldn’t care less about helping me, his single mother, out at all. It is absolute torture trying to get him to do [tasks] for others at all. He loves his friends and hanging out but that is about it. How do I get him motivated so he will get good grades and be a less selfish human being, Dr. Toni?
Distraught Mom

Dear Reader:
I empathize with you. Trying to raise a boy as a single mother is not easy. However, there is a 14–year old boy in all of us: selfish, lazy and uninterested in achieving our fullest potential. You don’t mention whether you yourself are feeling fulfillment in your life and career.
Start with yourself. How do you need to go about making your life happier and more meaningful? Look at your career or lack thereof and see if you could use some vocational coaching. Do you meditate? Are you exercising and eating well? Do you have a community of friends you feel supported by? Social activities on the weekends?
After you have created a life you love, then engage a male mentor for your son. Do some research on the Boys Club or Big Brothers organization in your town. Over a meal your son loves, which you either cook or take him out to, have a conversation with him, where your intention is to stay curious and devoid of judgment. Find out what he really enjoys and get him to talk about it. Discover the theme of all his interests and talk to one of his teachers about providing mentorship as well. And lastly, envision him in his fullest potential and hold that vision for him every day no matter what shows up in his behavior.

Dear Dr. Toni:
I have this strong desire to be a public speaker in spite of the fact that I am painfully shy in groups. What can I do to achieve my dream given my fear?
Wall Flower

Dear Reader:
Many people who perform in front of others are shy off-stage. Many famous actors have shared this same dilemma. You don’t have to be great in the group to be great in front of the group. The best way to get over your shyness and get into action in realizing your dream is to join Toastmasters. You might also want to check out Susan Levin’s group Speakers for Free at It will give you practice and that will most probably transform your anxiety. I also would suggest focusing on your message. If your message inspires you it will inspire others, and that allows you to get out of your own way.

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