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August 14 2020

America’s Change Management Phobia

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Why do we fear change? Freud once defined neurosis as an unconscious conflict between two opposing forces. The American people want change from our government and, yet, the biggest fear in the majority of citizens is the fear of change in their own lives.

Well, people want change management to be out there. They want the government to fix our economy, provide a cure for pandemics, and rebuild the education system. However, what we also know is that to exact a tipping point of real change in America and across the world is for every human being to live sustainably: eat between 1800-2000 calories, get in 30 min of exercise, and spend at least 15 min a day feeding your inner spirit.

When we demand of ourselves that which we expect of the “powers at be” who run our country, we have a chance to change the world exponentially. But giving up old habits, addictions, and just plain fear of the unknown is not an easy task for most people. We are being called to work with our fears not just one day at a time, but one moment at a time.

As 2020 progresses and the media touts the statistics on how many people are unemployed and sick ,with messages that induce fear for the future, it does not inspire the individual to do their part.

So, the real change comes in having the courage to speak out for a different reality in the face of the collective neurosis and speak it daily. If you work with your own emotions and clear out the anxiety rather than self medicate, then and only then can you meet the call to action everyone is talking about. When you take on your own fears and make changes in your own life, you not only liberate yourself; the whole world is freed.

In 1990 I developed a pioneering, evolutionary body, mind and spirit change technology called The LifeQuake Resilience Method for helping people transform the fear of change, discover and create the life they have always wanted and then become an agent for positive change in the world. It resulted in a book called The LifeQuake Phenomenon in 2010. In 2020, I published the tenth anniversary of that book that is an updated, expanded version of that book called, The LifeQuake Miracle: Awakening to Your True Purpose in Times of Personal and Global Upheaval. In it, I share the new neuroscience of change mastery and the stories of people I interviewed who had been through LifeQuakes and emerged with a new life purpose.

I invite you to share with me some changes you want to make that can change the world. We can do this one person at a time… drtoni@drtonigalardi.com

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November 11 2018

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“Everything is numbers and to know numbers is to know thyself.”

Pythagoras (580-500 BC)

Over 2500 years ago, (c. 580 – 500 BC) the Greek philosopher and mathematician, Pythagoras, believed that the world was built on the power of numbers. According to Pythagoras theory, everything in the universe is composed of mathematical patterns that have an effect on human nature; meaning that all things can be expressed in numbers that correspond to universal vibrations. These vibrations interact with the electromagnetic field of humanity. In this way, Pythagoras believed, numbers are the keys that unlock the secrets of the universe and nature.

I have been studying the influence that numbers have on human beings for twenty- five years. It is one of the reasons I include it in a soul blueprint session with my clients. By calculating a person’s life path number, destiny number, heart’s desire, public persona, and personal year vibration, as well as their astrology chart, I can best observe repeating themes in their soul contract. Further, there are also numbers that affect mass consciousness. As some of you may know, the entire planet has been experiencing the personal year vibration of 11.

11 is a master number, the number of light and light workers. Many people in the “lime – light” who end up as humanitarians are born under this number – Elizabeth Taylor, Jacqueline Kennedy, Anthony Robbins, and both Barack and Michelle Obama.

So today we celebrate the 11/11 vibration with an added power to it, as it is in an 11 year. When we add these numbers up, we get 33, the number of the Christ Consciousness. Developing the Christ’s consciousness comes down to one simple notion: “bring love to it.” Whatever the thought, bring love to it. On this auspicious day of 11/11/11 (2018 – 2 plus 1 plus 8), practice moving your thoughts to love and when you fall back into the ego’s trap of judging, love that, too!

In my book, The LifeQuake Phenomenon, after we have discovered what you are here to do next with your life purpose in stage five, I introduce the concept of sacred geometry for manifesting the new design. I give as a tool to repeat certain master numbers in order to manifest your greatest heart’s desires. One of those is the phrase: “I now vibrate to the frequency of 11/33/44”. This will take you to the Inner Self and so will just repeating, “I am 11/11/11”.

This week we have a lot of planets moving signs or changing direction. Jupiter just went into its home sign of Sagitarrius for the next year. This should be a lucky year for those with personal planets in the sign of Sag. If you are a writer aspiring to get a book published, a teacher, or world traveler, Jupiter going into its home sign can be lucky for you. It also rules the law and law suits. Mercury officially goes retrograde on Friday, Nov 16 although it is already in its shadow (making its mischief with my mail, missing items from UPS like shower curtain hooks, and movers who damaged the property I am renting). On the very same day, Venus goes direct. So, it becomes ok to fall in love again, just don’t sign any contracts until mid December!

If you can hold off doing your Christmas shopping until around the 10^thof December, I would pass on Black Friday, that is of course unless you are moving homes and the deals are just too good to pass up! Wink, wink. I moved my primary residence to Asheville, NC and have no furniture yet except a desk and a bed. I will still be traveling back to the West Coast occasionally to see friends and clients but Asheville is my new home and my work will continue as it has been, predominantly SKYPE, ZOOM or by phone.

And speaking of homes, one of the best things we can do for our physical and mental health is to reduce or eliminate our exposure to often hidden toxins in our home environment. It isn’t enough to eat organic food if your home is making you tired or off balance. My dear friend and colleague Beth Greer has an online course that will teach you how. Here’s the link to register. It starts this Tuesday night! healthyhomecourse.com

So in summary, lots of shifting energy this week, folks. If you spend some time every day between Nov 11 and Nov 17 focusing on merging whatever your ego identifies your self worth with into BEING divine love, you will have access to great vibrational quickening that not only opens your heart more fully, but allows for greater resilience as we move through this intense shift taking place globally . A portal is definitely opening. I felt it last Wed, Nov 7^thwhile I was teaching a virtual class. My body went through quite a download of new energy that I am excited to share with you both on the one on one through coaching and a new course starting after the next big Solar Eclipse on Jan 6, 2019. As you move through this week, remember that in all quickenings, first there is chaos as the old form dies and then rebirth for all of us.

Enjoy the ride!

With great love and affection,

Dr. Toni

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September 6 2018

Change Management Astrology for This Week

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Four Astrological Tips For Managing Change This Week

What an in between time this week is! We all should be roaring to go now that Labor Day is behind us and yet … the ambition, drive, and even vision is still blurry…

Here’s why:

Several planets are moving out of retro. I offer you here some direction on the highest mastery in this transitional time through these four tips:

1) The moon is waning, time for completion of projects. Wait until after next Sunday to initiate new ones.

2) Although Mars and Mercury are now direct, they are still moving very slowly. Mars ordinarily moves a degree in a day and a half. It will take a week for it to move one degree.

Mercury usually moves about 14 degrees in a week and it moved ten this week so it is slowly gaining momentum.

3) Saturn, the taskmaster (sometimes inner slave driver in us) which has been retrograde for five months, stations direct on Thursday. Saturn will move a half of one degree by Sep 30. Saturn rules the father, authority figures, responsibility, being an adult, and the career domain. It also rules what we have brought in as karmic restriction from previous lives that has us compelled to work hard at something or where we are inhibited or insecure. For example, people who have Saturn in their money house usually have money because they work very hard at attaining it, but never feel that they have enough. I have seen Saturn in the house of writing and communication in the charts of famous authors who never thought that what they had written was good enough or that they had done enough drafts.

Although Saturn will take a little while to gain its oomph, “the planet that rules where we need to be disciplined” will at least no longer be retrograde. What that means is you will feel a little more drive I predict after September 10 when it can get some help from Mars ( the assertive part of us) that will finally leave Capricorn next week and moves into the air sign of Aquarius. Saturn is in its own sign of Capricorn for another two years and three months. This is the time to career redirect or refine your life purpose if you are going to thrive in the next economic correction. When Saturn moves into the next sign of Aquarius, the universe and Saturn will not let you lie to yourself about your purpose here without paying a big price so I advise getting started now so you don’t incur a LifeQuake later. Two years goes by fast.

4) Use the new moon on Sunday after 11:00 AM PDT to set your intention for the month. With the new moon in Virgo, I would suggest looking at a place in your life that needs more critical analysis. Where can you reassign that noisy nag the egoic mind, (also called your inner critic), a job that doesn’t hurt your self esteem? Clean out a few closets and get ready for a change of seasons or edit something you’ve written to completion and then send it out or begin incorporating more warming foods with the seasonal change.

Another way to use the part of you that is both Virgo and Capricorn is to note where you are fearful or inhibited. Everyone has Virgo ruling somewhere in their horoscope. Further, this is the house placement for the new moon this month in your personal chart. It could be in the area of how you parent, how you take care of your home, how you show up as a partner or friend, and how to spiritually parent yourself so that the inner critic doesn’t have to do the job so severely.

Verbalizing intentions give them much more power and verbalizing them in a group consciousness even more power. When you go deep into either a guided or individual meditation, access where the energy in your body is blocked, bring light into that area for healing, go to the Higher Self for direction and THEN take action, this is Saturn at its best, the very nature of Spiritual Adulthood. I will sharing tools for this in the program launching Sunday eve.

We have a few slots left in our Activating Miracles on the Monthly New Moon Series still open for anyone ready to melt those old Saturn patterns into monthly breakthroughs that will build on one another into the new year of 2019 and our next Solar Eclipse on Jan 6. Contact me to register: 310-890-6832.

We will be clearing Saturn blockages in this program through the healings that Daniela and I will be activating in each person during these programs. In esoteric astrology, it has been said that the rings around Saturn reflect the inner barriers we come into this life with, based on past life actions.

Traditionally, one had to work hard to clear the karmic debt brought in by Saturn. Case in point, I have a client who is a very big star in the acting world and has the planet of luck, Jupiter in his career house, but he has Saturn in the house of family and he has had to support his family since he was a teenage actor, including both his parents. I have been working with him on his beliefs mentally, emotionally, and physically through reprogramming his ancestral DNA. If you clear the beliefs, you clear the karma. I am very excited to share this spiritual technology with the group that is gathering for the New Moon.

I invite you to join us if you feel at all pulled. There will be recordings to replay after for those who can’t make it in real time. Call now – 310-890-6832 to register.

So, in summary, formulate new goals after Sunday’s new moon but allow your Higher Self to guide the visioning process in the dream time now. For those registered or drawn to register for this new program on Sunday evening, pay attention to your dreams as we build the energy toward Sunday’s new moon.

Beginning five days before each new moon, is a period called the dark of the moon. If you can, refrain from having any surgical procedures during this time or as I mentioned above, launching any new projects.

Completion is the operative word, mindful completion. You will feel more energy next week but with 6 planets in earth signs, the call is to move forward with grounded mindfulness and patience with all the people around you who aren’t moving very fast, either.

It is all about intention, baby. Set your intention before sleep for the acceleration you want to see happen and then find like minded people to share them with, out loud. Pay attention to how it feels in your body when you declare out loud what you want to achieve this month.

I am also offering a career/life purpose coaching package for new clients who prefer personal attention that is 20% off and amounts to 3 sessions at no cost, only until September 30.

Happy Virgo New Moon!

With great love and affection,

Dr. Toni

August 21 2018

Change Management in my Third Act Career

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Dear Dr. Toni:

I am not an addict so this may not be your typical letter asking for advice. My wife, however, is a newly licensed psychotherapist who carries this magazine in her office.

To give you a little back story: she went back to school when our kids got into high school and then was an intern for two years and now is a full fledged therapist in her first office. Our kids are away at college. I am a businessman. There is a 10 years age difference between us. Not only is she in private practice, but she also is a political activist for children’s rights.

I have had a very successful career but at age 60 but am wanting to gear down more and possibly retire in two years. We can well afford it. My wife on the other hand, is ready to go big in her career. I have been having disturbing dreams in which I find out she isn’t a therapist but has become a famous actress or is being pursued by men closer to her age or younger. I also have had dreams about being naked in public and feeling uncomfortable.

I trust my wife. She has given me no reason not to trust her but I have become increasingly insecure lately. Sometimes she makes plans that don’t involve me with her girlfriends on the weekend and doesn’t consult me first and it bothers me. She has always been very independent, even as a housewife and mother when our kids were young but I did feel she needed me more then.

I don’t know if I should talk to her about this or work it out myself. I don’t want her to think of me as being unmanly or hung up on aging and I don’t know, quite frankly, what she can do about it anyway.

What do you think, doc? Should I talk to her about this?

Confused in Newport

Dear Reader:

Part of having a truly intimate relationship involves sharing your vulnerability. Your dream about being naked in public and feeling uncomfortable indicates that your persona is changing. You are being called by your soul to be more transparent and it feels scary. I would encourage you to first sit with this vulnerability without trying to change it at all. Breathe into it and allow it to feel safe with you, unjudged. Notice if it shifts. As you become more comfortable with your “emotional nakedness”, bring her into your awareness. Call upon your higher self (the full potential you) and ask this part to speak non-verbally to your wife about your fears. Notice how she responds in your mind’s eye. How does that feel now on a scale of 1-10, 10 being strongest?

If your anxiety has dissipated to a 3 or less, then it is time to share your process with your wife.

When a couple becomes empty nesters, it is time to redefine the contract you have had and update it. As your wife is becoming more visible in the community and thus having greater commitments, there is an opportunity for you to explore personal development of your own. I recommend getting the catalogue for Esalen in Big Sur, California and The Omega Institute in Rhinebeck, New York. As you become less of the hunter/provider, workshops could provide opportunities for inner exploration. As you grow, you have something to bring back to your relationship to share that in some ways is a part of her world too since she is professionally going into the world of psycho-spiritual growth.

I would also recommend that you think about a trip that would be an adventure or spiritual quest of some kind that you do solo. All of these experiences not only will evolve you but also provide the material for juicy conversations when you return to one another that maybe your business life did not. Having the economic freedom you now have can allow you to take on your bucket list while still staying connected to your spouse.

Given that she is a therapist and not an actress (lol), she will most likely find your curiosity and enthusiasm for your newly created life very attractive. All people are attracted to people who have lives that turn them on.

There is a great Act 3 waiting for you and opportunity for you both to grow as you shed the roles of Mom and Dad as a predominant theme in relating to one another. In my work as a career coach, I love working with people who are entering what I call Act 3 – the final 1/3 (hopefully) in their lives. Most babyboomers do not want to retire in their 60’s, but like the Millenials want their lives to have meaningful purpose. Keep the dialogue between you open as you both make this transition and I see great things ahead for your marriage and your individual paths.

Dr. Toni Galardi is a licensed psychotherapist, author of The LifeQuake Phenomenonand a well known consultant/expert on career repurposing as part of recovery in the addiction field.

If you have a question for The LifeQuake Doctor, you can write to her through: drtoni@drtonigalardi.comor by calling 310-890-6832. She works by phone and SKYPE in private practice. Her website is http://www.thelifequakedoctor.com

August 21 2018

Advice on Love Addiction – Counselor Magazine july 2018

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Dear Dr. Toni:

I am a recovering love addict and per my program took a year off from dating. I went online with a dating service and have been really shocked at how quickly men expect you to show physical affection toward them. Granted, I am 60 and my generation were much freer about sex in our college and 20’s years but darn, 60 something year old men want to kiss you on the first date and get mad because you want to get to know them and see if they are friend material first. I’ve been doing this for 6 months now and am getting discouraged.

My question is this, am I wrong for wanting to spend 3 months developing a friendship first? Will I never meet some one if I don’t give out within the first month? Should I think about women as an alternative choice?

Exasperated in Minnesota

Dear Reader:

First off, I want to applaud you for going one whole year into sobriety. That is a huge first step for a love addict. Secondly, given that you are now past your first year, perhaps there might be people to meet who also are sober dating. Do you go to meetings for any other twelve – step programs? You might consider going to Alanon meetings if you have co-dependency issues as well. Many love addicts do. There may be people in this culture who will have more respect for you.

You might also consider being bold and putting in your profile on the dating site that you are in recovery and seeking a man who is willing to go slow and develop a friendship first. You might not get as many people interested, but it will weed out the guys who have a different pace than you.

Another possibility is to do some research on non-profit organizations and volunteer your time at charity events that are raising money for a cause you believe in. A man who is humanitarian might be the type to also volunteer. I hope this helps.

Do not give up faith that you will meet a man who is the right match for you. Keep your intention clear and your self value and self respect high, you will magnetize that person.

Dear Dr. Toni:

I think I might be agoraphobic. I do go out but I prefer to stay at home. I live alone and sometimes I get lonely but crowds make me nervous and group functions drain me. I do like one on one interactions in my home with friends but people like to meet you places and do things and I end up getting tired after about two hours and want to go home so I am thought of as a drag. I have a job but I work from home using the internet as part of my work. Is it wrong to prefer to be at home rather than out in this crazy, chaotic world we live in? One of my friends thinks I need meds for my social anxiety. I don’t have panic attacks when I’m out, just feel mildly uncomfortable. I would say what bothers me the most is that I am single and you have to go out to meet people. Do you have any suggestions as to what to do about this?

Home Confinement Addict

Dear Reader

Well, I don’t think you are agoraphobic from what you have described. It doesn’t sound like your anxiety reaches unmanageable levels. What may be going on is that you are an HSP – Highly Sensitive Person. HSP’s are drained by groups and have to clear their energy upon returning home from being with people.

HSP’s are often highly creative and introverted. Georgia O’Keefe the painter was an HSP. Many great artists spent large amounts of time away from the world but used the time to create great works of art. With FaceTime and Skype you can meet people online and screen them before ever meeting them. When you read people’s profiles, pay attention to what they like to do. If they are a very active person physically, delete. If the person appears shy or introverted, talk to them on the phone or above mentioned apps, and see if they too are highly sensitive. There are seminars and conferences designed specifically for HSP’s. Check them out. These may be the friends and lovers who would have the most empathy and compassion for your inclinations. Some people are just home bodies. It doesn’t necessarily mean you are addicted to your home. Empaths just feel more comfortable in environments that are quiet and calm. The key is to tell the truth in your profile if you do decide to do online dating. Being authentic will draw the right people to you.

Dr. Toni Galardi is a licensed psychotherapist, author of The LifeQuake Phenomenon and is a well known expert on career repurposing as part of recovery in the addiction field. Dr. Galardi also trains therapists to be coaches in her method of career repurposing coaching.

August 3 2018

Solar Eclipse in Leo and A Week of Great Acceleration

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“True freedom is when all the stories, all the insights, all the realizations, concepts, beliefs and positions dissolve. What remains is what you are; a vast, conscious, luminous space simply resting in itself, not knowing a thing, at the point where all things are possible.”

― Enza Vita

“Om is the God of love. Like a loving mother, Chanting Om cleans us of our clutters collected through many incarnations.”

― Banani Ray

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The Summer of Great Change – August Eclipse

In all of my 27 years as an astrologer, I can honestly say I have never seen such a line up of intense light pouring onto the planet as the last 6 weeks, and next week it ratchets up even further. The frequency shift is reconstructing us all, if we let it.

The week leading up to the last solar eclipse of the year on August 11 is a doozy! I know I sound repetitive from what we experienced leading up to the lunar eclipse but it is that kind of summer, folks.

Before I get into next week’s “excitement”, I want to invite you to a free event I am co-leading with Daniela Carraro to celebrate the solar eclipse and the ushering in of the next six month cycle. Details are below but please email me at drtoni@drtonigalardi.com if you want to be a part of this event. Space is limited to 100 people.

Uranus (the great awakener and planet that triggers earthquakes and lightning bolts) will station retrograde on August 7 until January 6^th, 2019, the very same day as the next solar eclipse in Capricorn. On Tuesday, this will give us six planets retrograde on the same day that the moon is void (stay grounded), including Mercury, Mars, Saturn, Neptune and Pluto.

Having six planets retrograde is a very rare occurrence, happening only less than 1% of the time, that’s 2/3 of one percent. Mars is not only retrograde but also out-of-bounds for three days (allowing for the energy to be unconstrained by other planets), adding to the intensity of the chaotic collective energy we are all creating. As the god of war, Mars energy stimulates extremism at this time, creating an atmosphere ripe for accidents and outbursts of focused anger.

A shooting in Trader Joe’s, earthquakes, and political volatility escalating, all exemplified this in recent weeks. The dominant planetary energy will be fixed, very Taurus in nature. Taurus’ hate change. Wherever the planet Taurus is or rules in your natal chart may be where you resist change and seek external security the most. These six planets retrograde bring a feeling of being stuck, or mired down as forward progress seems difficult at best, due to unexpected delays and roadblocks. If I were the universe and I wanted humans to take a break from DOING so much and focus on BEING, I would have planned it this way. Spend as much time as you can for the next 10 days, releasing the past and all your old stories about yourself. Emotional and mental detoxing is the doing to be doing.

Further, it is always important to be uber aware when either Mercury or Mars are retrograde, but because we have four days that the moon is void next week (which by itself can make people spacy, feisty, and unaware as they drive the freeways, and apparently… do their food shopping!), please move more slowly, meditate daily if you can, drink lots of water laced with trace minerals, chant Om to yourself all day long and commune with nature. Get your cute little dew beaters (look that one up!) into Mother Earth as much as possible.

What also to do: I would invite you to make a point on Aug 3, 7^th, 9^th,and 11^th( the spaciest days) to visualize extending your auric field out by 3-6 ft in a bubble of light safe and loved by all whom you come into contact with while projecting that to others as well as you move through your life while your root chachra is connected downward toward Gaia.

Although the new moon solar eclipse is on August 11 at 2:57AM PDT, it immediately goes void until 9:30 PM PDT, that night. What we know about the energy of intentions is that because the moon rules our emotional body, we won’t feel the crystallization of the intention until it reaches the sign of Virgo. When the moon is void, there isn’t the fire of connectivity that happens when it aspects another planet.

So, once again, to support all of you, I am co-leading a 90 – minute invocation and workshop on Sunday morning, August 12th with Daniela Carraro, a gifted healer and Qi Gong master teacher. This is my gift to you. Space is limited so sign up and we will send the link for this online event: drtoni@drtonigalardi.com

I will cover what the energy of this summer is bringing and how to use it in the Fall, the significance of these three eclipses that we wont see again for 2 hundred years, and how to receive the archetypes of Cancer, Leo, and Aquarius through these three eclipses as they are imprinted in your very own matrix. We both will be taking you through very powerful visualizations to bring this new energy deep into your cells. When you sign up, you will have an opportunity to send us your intention for the next six months that will be weaved into our sacred energetic basket that you begin to step into when you sign up.

As this is a solar eclipse in Leo, the archetype that rules play, come play with us in this powerful circle where desires and rewiring can be manifested quickly in the next six months! Contact me asap through drtoni@drtonigalardi.com for the link. This will fill up.

Molto Amore,

Dr. Toni

June 20 2018

Neptune Retrograde – Making Your Dreams Come True or Deception?

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What a powerful time it is! When Mars goes retro next week, we will have 5 planets retro as we move toward these three eclipses in July and August. Not surprising that there was a major earthquake in Osaka, Japan. We are three weeks away from the first eclipse at 21 degrees of Cancer. Eclipses bring the death of people in the limelight often six weeks before or after (Mother Teresa, Princess Di, John Kennedy Jr). In ancient times, they called it “the fall of the king”.

Anthony Bourdain was born in the early degrees of Cancer and Kate Spade in the polar opposite sign of Capricorn also in early degrees. Both had the planet Uranus coming into orb with their sun. Uranus can make us do impulsive things as well as trigger earthquakes.

Today I want to talk about my favorite planet: Neptune. Now, from a Western World point of view, Neptune is not as highly valued as say, Jupiter or Uranus is because it rules that which is unseen and works us on the subtle body level. Neptune rules the dreamtime, mysticism, meditation, retreats, monasteries, fog, intuition, and imagination. It also rules the collective unconscious.

As neuroscience is showing us how profound an impact that meditation has on the brain, in time we will see how important it is to look at Neptune in your chart. It will show you where you can be fooled or deceive yourself and it will also show the road for you specifically that will assist in reaching your most enlightened state.

One of the ways to contact Neptune and feel its powers is through the dreamtime. As a Jungian trained psychotherapist, I have personally and professionally experienced the power of recording and interpreting one’s dreams. One of my clients received information in a dream to pull her money out of the stock market, one week before the 2008 crash. Another saw the trade towers being bombed the night before 9/11. I have been told to take certain supplements that my body needed. I was given a message in my dreams the night before the Northridge earthquake. Artists and inventors get many inspirations through the dreamtime.

I have also gotten creative ideas in my dreams. However, dream recall is not easy for most busy people and one has to really apply effort through keeping a blank pad by your bed or your cell phone turned off but ready to be used to record the download upon awakening. Meditating before bed also helps. If you have a dilemma or problem you want your intuition to help you with, write it down and put it near your bed before sleeping at night.

When planets go retrograde, the impact of that planet’s function in our world intensifies. If you work with your dreams over the next four months and keep up a steady meditation practice, your brain can reformat into greater serenity and bring you greater creative juice. As the next few months are pulling us inward ( if we listen), it is a great time to do focused coaching.

In closing, here are two gifts: I am sharing here in my newsletter, the link to the radio interview I did recently in Hollywood and to continue to offer to the end of this month a 25% discount on my astrology readings.

Here is the link:
https://lifechangesnetwork.com/shifting-from-disastering-to-mastering-with-guest-dr-toni-galardi-and-musical-guests-maria-de-la-vega-and-the-wayward-five-on-life-changes-show-481/

From my heart to yours,

Dr. Toni

March 18 2018

Hoarding – The Addiction No One Talks About – Counselor Magazine

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Dear Dr. Galardi:

I am a physician who treats morbidly obese patients for weight loss. I have three children and a boyfriend. I am 50 years old and because I am prominent in my community have not felt safe reaching out to my colleagues with my issue. Given that I have never had an eating disorder myself or substance abuse issue, I never really thought of my problem as an addiction but I read your column and thought I would get your opinion.

I have a hard time letting go of stuff. Real stuff. My children’s baby clothes, their toys when they were small, clothes I haven’t worn in years, etc. I spend $700 a month on a storage unit I never go to. If I need something that I know is somewhere in storage, I just go buy it new rather than bother to rummage through all the boxes. I have spent $40,000 on this storage unit in total so far but when I think of giving it up, my nervous system goes into a panic. I feel that I have been on my own since I was a kid

My mother died when I was 7 years old and my father sent me and my brother to live with an aunt and we were only allowed to bring one bag of clothes. We had to leave our toys behind. There is something about having all that stuff in storage that gives me a good feeling. My house also is packed with too much stuff. My fiance’ thinks I have an addiction and I wanted to check this out with you. What I do know is that I am wasting good money and it does give me a feeling of security knowing that storage unit is there. So, what do you think?

“Dr. Pack Rat”

Dear Reader:

From what you have described I would say that you do indeed have an addiction. When a person gets emotional security from something outside him/herself that is costing them in some way, then there is a compulsion present. It is costing you money to keep this storage unit, clutter in your home, it is providing a bad role model for your children, and your fiance’ is now getting upset. Hoarding is an addiction.

Losing your mother at the age of 7 and if you had to go live with your aunt, losing your father as well and most of your worldly possessions is traumatic. It has left a deep wound inside of you. You mentioned that you work with people who have an eating disorder and you have never had a food issue or substance abuse issue. Perhaps this issue is meant to serve you in terms of upping your compassion for people who compulsively eat or use. Unless someone has had an addiction can they really understand the irrationality of doing something that creates loss in the long run and provides emotional stability artificially. Your childhood wound and chosen profession qualifies you to embody what is called “the wounded healer.” Someone who has taken their childhood wound and followed a path of healing for others.

Further, you also mention that despite having a boyfriend, you feel you’ve been on your own since childhood. My advice is to do this practice every day: at the end of the day before bed, write out either on your phone note section or computer or by hand in a journal, how you were supported today. Scan through the day and note kindnesses extended to you by others, ways people helped you, how your children contribute to you, your boyfriend. Begin sorting through your life how the universe is supporting you. Now feel into this support in your body. This will begin to change the neurotransmitters and re-pattern the early trauma.

I also recommend a 12 step program for clutter – Clutterers Anonymous. To quote from their program: “ We admitted we were powerless over clutter—that our lives had become unmanageable. Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity. Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God, as we understood God.”

May you find serenity and greater empathy for those you serve through this healing journey of your own.

Dr. Toni Galardi is a licensed psychotherapist, author of The LifeQuake Phenomenon and a well known consultant/expert on career repurposing as part of recovery in the addiction field. She has been the advice columnist for Counselor Magazine for 7 years.

If you have a question for The LifeQuake Doctor, you can write to her through: drtoni@drtonigalardi.com or by calling 310-890-6832. She works by phone and SKYPE in private practice. Her website is http://www.thelifequakedoctor.com

March 7 2018

Ask the LifeQuake Doctor/ Counselor Mag/ “Losing Your Teeth” to Workaholism

Dr. Toni Ask the LifeQuake Doctor addiction, career transition, change management, crisis, fear of change, life transition 0

Dear Dr. Toni:

I don’t know what to do about my younger sister. She is a recovering alcoholic so alcohol is not the issue right now. She neglected her teeth and now is facing $40,000 in dental bills as well as significant bone loss in her upper and lower jaw. This is not a person who comes from lower economic circumstances. She has a very successful but young company (three years old) but became maniacal in getting it launched.

It was more important to get her product into Bergdorf’s than it was to take care of her health. She has lost a significant amount of weight and has become obsessed with talking about all her regrets at having neglected herself. She also goes over and over the graphic details of the distortions in her face now. She blames me for referring her to the old dentist whom she feels should have warned her. The latest is that she believes that one of her friend’s may have put a curse on her. This friend supposedly has kept voo doo dolls. Hard to believe of a woman who is part of Hollywood’s elite but, who knows?

I suggested therapy. I’ve suggested workshops. I suggested just plain forgiving herself and moving on and she refuses to do that. She isn’t going to meetings either. She has told me she just wants to die. She tells me she can’t be the face of a product that’s brand involves beauty. I don’t know what to do. I have threatened her that I will get a psychiatric hospital involved and 5150 her.

What do you suggest? Should she be hospitalized given that she refuses to see a doctor and take medication? I am worried sick about her. Your thoughts?

By the way, I love your column. I read it at my shrink’s office and was just curious about another professional opinion.

Distressed Reader

Dear Reader:

My heart goes out to you. Let’s talk about you first. It sounds like you have offered your sister many options. It also sounds like she is not interested in helping herself. She wants to blame you and others. What emotions are kicking up in you out of this drama with your sister? Take a moment. Breathe through your mouth down into your body. Think about your sister and then find where the emotion is triggered in your body.

Keep surrendering into the feeling through your breath. Ask your body to show you the youngest version of you that first had this feeling. Now, what is under that feeling? For example, under the feeling that you might lose your sister might be a fear of being alone. You don’t mention if you have other siblings or a partner. Another feeling that might emerge is that you were put in charge of this sibling when you were younger. Even if your parents are dead, unconsciously you might feel you are still responsible for her if they instructed you to always take care of her. It might be useful to work with your therapist on the contract you may have made regarding her.

Lastly, I would suggest that you go to Alanon. By getting a sponsor, you will have someone you can reach out to every day right now.

To answer your question about a 5150: Once you put her in the system, you will not have any control over what happens to her. It is a crap shoot as to who the attending staff will be and what drugs they choose to give her. Also, unless she is actively suicidal; has told you specifically how she would kill herself and/or when, a mere wanting to die because of her condition will probably not hold water. It will also be on her medical records. This is a great example of how sobriety does not guarantee that the addict will show up for their health and well being. Workaholism can replace alcohol as a the next addiction.

Go to Alanon and work with the emotions that she is triggering in you. The more at peace you are with whatever choices she makes, the less attention she is getting for her response to her medical and dental condition. The more you hold her in your mind as whole just the way she is and that you are not responsible for her decisions anymore, now that you both are adults, the greater the possibility she will help herself. In Alanon, this is called radical acceptance.

I hope this is helpful. At this time of year, the holidays trigger so much unfinished business with our families. However, if we get past Madison Avenue’s messages that everyone else is having a Hallmark moment with their families, “Christmas and Hanukah Neurosis” can be a time to heal the past if you step back and clean up your own side of the street. Consult your own therapist if she becomes actively suicidal as to the next step.

Dr. Toni Galardi is a licensed psychotherapist, author of The LifeQuake Phenomenon and a well known consultant/expert on career repurposing as part of recovery in the addiction field.

Dr. Toni has been the advice columnist for Counselor Magazine for over 7 years. If you have a question for The LifeQuake Doctor, you can write to her through: drtoni@drtonigalardi.com or by calling 310-890-6832. She also works by phone and SKYPE in private practice. Her coaching website is http://www.thelifequakedoctor.com

October 26 2009

” Braking Down When Your Soul is Breaking Open: How Car Accidents Symbolize Fear of Change”

Dr. Toni From the LifeQuake Desk ABC, chiropractor, dream symbolism, fear of change, life transition, View from the Bay 31

In the past four days I have been contacted by three people who all were in vehicular accidents: two auto, one motorcycle. In the midst of this I was a guest on a television talk show called View From the Bay. see
http://abclocal.go.com/kgo/story?section=view_from_the_bay/everything_else&id=7079894. I referenced having had three car accidents in 6 days and have certainly referenced it in my public speaking and other blogs. I realized however, that although I go into more depth about the symbolism of car accidents in my book The LifeQuake Phenomenon, I haven’t discussed in greater depth what they can symbolize in my blog.

Have you ever had a dream where you are the driver of a car and the brakes go out at high speed or you are a passenger and the driver is navigating recklessly all over the road? The first of these can mean you feel your life is out of control and moving too fast. The latter can mean you feel that someone else is in control, recklessly in the driver’s seat of your life. Cars in dreams often symbolize how we are moving through our lives. In the second stage of one of my client’s LifeQuake, he received four parking tickets in a two week period and then his car brake disengaged while parked and rolled into the street. My interpretation of this was that he was over parked in his life and needed to move on from a career he no longer wanted.

In my case, I needed to leave my marriage and was hit from behind three times to push me forward. You really know you need to move on when you think the answer is to stop driving and then get hit while you’re a passenger in the back seat! This was the third and final experience that got me to realize I was holding onto a life that was over.

In a city like Los Angeles, people are very identified with their cars. A car accident can represent a structural change. When a person incurs a back or neck injury, they see a chiropractor unless it requires the medical intervention of an orthopedic surgeon. The opportunity that seeing a chiropractor during a time of great transition provides is that you have to get off “the hamster wheel” and lay still while someone re-aligns your neck and spine three times a week for six weeks. The combination of this pause and restructuring can be used to contemplate the meaning of your accident and what it is trying to tell you.

I would suggest that any illness can be used to turn inward and ask what the function of this is for your life. Besides car accidents, I have found that when I’ve had the flu or a head cold that kept me in bed, I would do this little exercise.
Imagine there is a beautiful ball of light three feet above your head. Breathe in this light through the top of your head. Focus its energy on your neck and spine if you’ve had an accident or are in pain there. If your chest or head is congested ( such as in a cold) focus the light there. For five minutes, just breathe a warm, golden light into your body and then bring your awareness to your heart. Breathe the light into your heart. Now, once you feel a little peace and quiet there, imagine a spiritual guide that you either see or feel the presence of. Ask the guide this question, ” what do you want me to know right now? What is the next step I need to be taking in my life? And then listen patiently for the answer. It may come immediately and it may come at a later time when you least expect it.

When you are back on the mend, you will now be more awake and pro-active. The key to no longer needing wake up calls like car accidents and illnesses is to develop a daily practice of turning within and asking this question: what is my next step? and then decide. Everything comes from your decision. It is all you need to know because it is all you can do next.

Dr. Toni Galardi is a licensed psychotherapist, transitions coach, and public speaker. She works with people all over the world by phone. 310-712-2600.

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